Daily Happiness

Jan. 12th, 2026 08:06 pm
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1. Well, the bathroom sink did not stay unplugged for long, and after trying Drano again a couple days ago, it pretty much stopped draining altogether, so we ended up having to get a plumber out after all. But we got someone to come today (it wasn't an emergency as we could just use the kitchen sink, so didn't want to call over the weekend) and he was able to fix it very quickly and it wasn't expensive. And Carla asked him if he could take a look at the knob that switches between the shower/tub faucet, which has not been working for like a couple years, and he fixed that without charging extra, so now we can switch to the tub faucet if we want to.

2. Although the rain is gone, it's so windy that we're still getting a ton of berries coming down from the tree out front, so I took the car in for a wash again and once again there was no line, so when the guy offered to let me go through twice, I took him up on it. The car looks much better!

3. We had a meeting at work today to get approval for some expenses on the project we're working on and I was expecting it to be difficult but it was super easy!

4. Ollie has also been enjoying Carla's new suitcase.

Recent Reading: Empty Wardrobes

Jan. 12th, 2026 06:58 pm
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I collect false treasures in empty wardrobes.

This quote by Paul Eluard opens book #14 from the "Women in Translation" rec list, which continues to fatten up my TBR list. This is Empty Wardrobes by Maria Judite de Carvalho, translated from Portuguese by Margaret Jull Costa. This novella, originally published in the 1960s, is about the ways in which women are subsumed by the men in their lives, or otherwise are buffeted about with less control over their lives than they ought to have.

The forward by Kate Zambreno is a wonderfully complementary piece. She talks about the anger she feels going to a woman's funeral and hearing the dead woman sanctified by men in her life who did nothing but take from her, who can speak of her only to praise what she did for others, and can say nothing about what the woman herself was. 

Sometimes you can read a book and just know the author was angry when she wrote it. This is one of those. The book uses the phrase "discreet rage" about one of its characters, and I think that sentiment succinctly describes the whole book. The protagonist, Dora Rosario, is ten years into widowhood, and she has devoted her entire life to mourning her unremarkable husband as much as she had previous devoted her life to supporting his every opinion regardless of whether or not she agreed with it. Now, a decade on, her mother-in-law reveals something about Dora's late husband that changes her entire perspective.

I would like to believe we are moving away from the world portrayed in Empty Wardrobes (though not with as much success as I'd like), but this is a stark reminder of how even a few generations ago, in the Sixties, a woman's identity was so controlled by her husband's. There are only two men in this book--Duarte, Dora's dead husband, and Ernesto, the longtime partner of a side character--and they both, through social structures, exercise incredible control over the lives of the women around them without any respect or even knowledge of their impact.

The three main women in this book--Dora, her daughter Lisa, and the narrator--each take a different approach to the male romantic partners in their lives, and none of them comes out the better for it (well, perhaps for Lisa, but I personally doubt it will last), because the ultimate problem is societal attitudes about the way men and women are meant to relate to each other. 

It's not a long book, and I can't say much more without spoiling things, but I also think it does some fabulous things with its narration and perspective, and the way it doles out information. Really an excellent framing that allows for a lot of fluidity and filling in gaps with your own visions while remaining clear in the nature of the story it's telling. 

This book was only translated into English in 2021, which is a shame, because I think it would have struck a nerve much earlier, but we have it now! Costa does an excellent job with the work too; the writing is full of punchy phrases like the above, and she captures some realistic dialogue--characters repeating themselves, responding in ways that don't quite match up with what was asked, etc.--while keeping it natural-sounding. 

Snowflake Challenge #5

Jan. 12th, 2026 09:24 pm
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Snowflake Challenge: A mug of coffee or hot chocolate with a snowflake shaped gingerbread cookie perched on the rim sits nestled amidst a softly bunched blanket. A few dried orange slices sit next to it.

Challenge #5

In your own space, create a list of at least three things you'd love to receive, a wishlist of sorts.


1. Strength Training. I have been doing the same strength training workout over and over for many years. So if anyone has a program, book, website, app, YT channel, etc. they like for strength training (hand weights, using your own body weight, which I prefer, home workout or gym machines because I do go to the YMCA twice a week, I also have some of those rubber bands with handles somewhere), let me know, keeping in mind I'm a 50-year-old obese woman who strength train a maximum of four times a week.

2. Tarot resources. I just got my first tarot deck for Xmas so if you have tarot resources you like, let me know.

3. Poetry. I'm always keen to know what poems speak to people.

Book 5, 2026

Jan. 12th, 2026 08:24 pm
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Bedeviled Eggs (Cackleberry Club, #3)Bedeviled Eggs by Laura Childs

My rating: 5 of 5 stars


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Shortly after midnight, I finished reading my “spare” book, Bedeviled Eggs by Laura Childs. It’s the third in her “Cackleberry Club” series of cozy mysteries. The main character is widowed Suzanne Dietz, who owns and operates the Cackleberry Club diner with her friends, Toni and Petra.

The Cackleberry Club dips into the dating scene by hosting “read dating”, which tries to match couples up based on their reading preferences. Things are going well until Chuck Peebler, mayoral candidate, is killed as soon as he steps outside the diner, with Suzanne right beside him. She takes it personally, not just because Peebler was killed on her property, but because the murderer continued firing crossbow bolts long after Peebler was down. When the sheriff shifts his attention to the woman whom Peebler argued with at the event, Petra asks Suzanne to help prove her friend is innocent. Suzanne agrees to investigate, and she thinks she’s being subtle...right up until her own life is threatened. With Halloween right around the corner, it’s time to unmask a killer.

Thoroughly enjoyable. I wish I’d read it in October. LOL! Characters are three-dimensional, the plot was well-paced, and Suzanne was depicted working and socializing—not just investigating. Her fledgling romance with Sam is progressing nicely, and I like the slow pace of their relationship. This may be my favorite book of the series so far.

Favorite lines:
♦ “Boy couldn’t find his butt crack at high noon in the hall of mirrors.”
♦ “You can give away a nameless dog, but never a dog with a cute name.”
♦ “The only date I have this Friday is with Brad Pitt. And he’s easy. I can pick him up any time at the video store.”
♦ “Welcome to my Halloween party, Harry Potter!”

Excellent book, five stars

Today's Video Link

Jan. 13th, 2026 01:30 am
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Posted by Mark Evanier

Have you heard enough about the ICE agent in Minnesota who shot Renee Nicole Good in the face three times? If you have, skip today's video. But if not and if you want to see a straightforward, unemotional presentation of the case and the laws which may have been violated, proceed.

It's been a while since I posted a video here from Devin "Legal Eagle" Stone and this one does contain a couple of commercials — one for his law firm, one for a service which removes your personal data from places where it shouldn't be. But he also lays out the evidence and analyzes the videos the way a good lawyer would. This is in case you haven't already made up your mind what happened there. A lot of folks did before they even bothered to look at the facts…

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Posted by Mark Evanier

Paul Krugman on the demise of "Drill, Baby, Drill" as a policy. Most of the folks I heard use that phrase used it to say they didn't give a damn about the environment or animals or nature or anything except making sure they could get gas for their S.U.V.s…but there's more to it than that.

Wash away.

Jan. 12th, 2026 08:18 pm
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Challenge #6

Top 10 Challenge. Post your answer to today’s challenge in your own space and leave a comment in this post saying you did it.

Include a link to your post if you feel comfortable doing so. Also, feel free to entice engagement by giving us a preview of what your post covers.


Top Ten Times I Called It In And Walked Away

In no particular order, not alphabetical, chronological, or according to any level of importance -

1. Supernatural - I know people who watched it all and my hat's off to them, but after season eight, I knew it wasn't for me anymore.

2. Teen Wolf - sometime in season three or four, it went from being a show on MTV to an MTV show, and I was done.

3. House - end of season five or six, when not only had the characters grown stale, but the lighting had gone sour.

4. True Blood - somewhere in there, between seasons, I realized I couldn't do it anymore.

5. Game of Thrones - for all that I was enjoying myself, I realized it was a provisional, conditional love, and the creators had violated the last of those provisions.

6. Marvel comic movie adaptations - animated and live-action Spider-Man movies, Deadpool, the X-Men region, TV shows, the MCU as a whole. Much like House, the lighting's sour and the characters aren't nearly as much fun to watch anymore. I'll still come back from time to time, and leaving the movies is different from leaving the fandom, and it's not my fault they set standards that they then failed to meet.

7. X-Men comics in general and Joss Whedon in particular - because even though I watched Buffy and Angel long after walking away from Whedon, I knew from seeing him kill off a character he said he loved writing that he wasn't someone I could trust anymore, and when Marvel gave the go-ahead for that move on top of all the other repeated future ends of the world, I knew I couldn't trust them either.

8. No small number of fandom-based podcasts - because I don't have much patience for "um" and "like" and "you know" and other such filler words when I know you've taken notes and prepared for this well in advance, and you've also set up multiple Patreon tiers. When there's money involved, I expect you to use your time better than that.

9. Stargate Atlantis - because for all the raw entertainment value it offered, that value came tempered with a feeling of obligation and a gradual lack of playfulness - which can be done, provided the show commits to being more serious. I didn't get a sense of that.

10. Doctor Who - because the tidal nature of the show meant it'd gone out, and I never bothered to wander back to find if it's come back in, which told me all I needed to know about how much I'd enjoy spending more time with it.

Let me emphasize this isn't an anti-rec list, this isn't a set of warnings about not getting into something to begin with, this isn't even much of a set of complaints. This is something that, for all the frustrations involved, makes me happy because learning to know when to stop is a very grown-up skill. Knowing when you need a break or you've had enough takes work, and acting on that takes additional work. It's something that can be applied to situations more serious than a TV show - a friend who's no longer fun to hang out with, a job that's draining you dry. Walking away from something that ultimately doesn't mean much makes it easier to do it for something significantly more serious.

I could probably come up with another five or ten without much trouble, but if I did, it'd turn into an airing of grievances instead of a meditation on learning a new skill in a safe, controlled environment.

two log cabins with snow on the roofs in a wintery forest the text snowflake challenge january 1 - 31 in white cursive text
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This is one of the men's rooms at The House on The Rock in Spring Green, WI, where we spent part of our whirlwind off-season vacation at the end of April. Not the warmest time for places like Milwaukee or The Dells, but a lot fewer people!



more animals in WI here, which seems weird since I'm in Minnesota )

it's winter, you get penguins

Jan. 12th, 2026 08:44 pm
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hello my flist! i had such high hopes for the new year and, just, pfft. it's [community profile] snowflake_challenge season and i haven't even posted for that. oy.

anyway i hope your 2026 has been decent-to-good so far or at least not worse than 2025.

for new year's i went to my sister's and we went out for dinner (delish) and watched a lot of lotr, pausing only to watch the ball drop in times square. i like a good tradition but she may or may not want to do something different this year. we'll see. and for christmas she came to my house and we drove around to look at people's holiday lights and got chinese takeout and watched wake up, dead man on netflix because we both felt too meh to go out. (i liked it but i think i liked the first one the best.) and like four days before that my cousin's youngest kid got married in dc and i brought a cold with me and lost my voice at the wedding. wtf. that made it very difficult to talk to cousins which did not stop me. but it also meant i was still sick or recovering for the entirety of my time off. whiiine. at least i had two weeks off to cough up a lung and sit on my couch and be tired, rather than having to take sick days or work from home a lot. but still! i had a lot of time off and couldn't even enjoy most of it! and i had plans! which were mostly "watch tv, work on holiday project for writing group, start pumpkin spice cross stitch". sigh.

(while in dc my sister and i did a little sightseeing, which included a farmer's market down the street from the hotel - it was SO WINDY but there were lots of dogs - a walk around the washington monument, a stroll down the reflecting pool, and a little talk by a park ranger in the lincoln memorial.)

we got snow a couple times tho, that was nice. i'm a big fan of waking up to snow on the ground. :D especially new year's day! it was just enough to shovel but if it had been, say, four inches, i would've enjoyed that too.

during my time off i met admin s who works at the libraries for lunch and a week later i met one of the admins m for lunch and both of those things were really nice, partly because i enjoy a lunch out and partly because it was just nice to see people. and i never see admin s because i don't work with her any more. i also had mexican brunch with [livejournal.com profile] tamalinn and friend a and friend a's hubs and that was fun and also delicious. and saturday i got a haircut. :D

before the haircut i went to cousins j&m's for brunch and to say hi and goodbye to their kids before they went back to school, and friday night my sister and i took cousin p on dad's side out for dinner for her birthday. it was yummy (i had black pasta with shrimp and calamari) and they brought cousin p a slice of flourless chocolate cake for her birthday. my sister and i ate most of it.

work re-entry was fine and going to campus was weird because it's been like three weeks since i was there. classes don't start until february so it's very quiet but again, it's nice to see people.

things i did in november and december:

went record album/antique shopping with tamalinn and friend a and bought the go-gos' beauty and the beat, heart's little queen, and a cookbook from the 50s full of buffet recipes
saw wicked pt 1 (again) in preparation for seeing wicked pt 2
went out to dinner with my sister and cousin j (of j&m)
fetched the mothership at the airport for tday
went out for bday dinner with mom, sister, cousins j&r, and the aforementioned lone cousin j
got snowed on in harvard square :DDD
had brunch with cousins from mom's side
bought a dress for the wedding
did not need to buy shoes
had dinner with cousins from dad's side
had mom and sister over for dinner (i made pork chops because i could)
went to j&m's for tday
ate a lot
saw wicked pt 2 (not bad but i liked pt 1 better, also why did the story have to be two movies?)
went to snowport (boston holiday market, down by the seaport) where i bought a print of a pickle sign and saw the lobster nativity
borrowed a bolero jacket from one of the admins m for the wedding because the dress is sleeveless and it was a jewish wedding and i'd have to cover my shoulders
went to the holiday market at the somerville armory and bought a blockprint of a medieval looking fish and a print of my favorite local bridge
one of the vendors had a print with a drawing of a guillotine and the legend "a better world is possible!" heh.
watched red one (so cute, so silly)
went to friend r's to watch the thin man because it's set around christmas and while i don't know how successful it was as a murder mystery i liked nick and nora as a couple and overall enjoyed it
saw the housemaid (had some twists i appreciated and i liked it)
curled lots, made a couple good shots and a lot more acceptable-to-missed shots
finished the lowdown (liked it, recommend it, didn't love the way the murder plot shook out)
watched talasmasca: the secret order (partly because of elizabeth mcgovern going "talamasssca" in the trailers) (mostly liked it altho i didn't really like the protagonist - he thought he was the smartest person in the room and every time he got in over his head, which was pretty much the entire show, women showed up to get him out of trouble)
watched hysteria! (about a high school heavy metal garage band that pretends to be a satanic cult to get fans, and then shit goes off the rails) (it's set in 1987 and got a lot of the satanic panic right but was otherwise only glancingly historical which made me twitch. was fun altho did i mention it went totally off the rails?)
rewatched stranger things s1-s4 with folks on discord in preparation for s5
watched s5 (i have mixed feelings about the season as a whole but i was pretty satisfied with how it ended)

so this news is massachusetts based and one of my friends even works for massdot and DID NOT TELL ME and i had to learn from a snowflake challenge from someone who doesn't even live here and now i share with you the winners of the name-a-snowplow contest. the entries all came from public school classrooms (k-8) and the plows are in service this winter. sleet caroline! clearopathra! you're killing me squalls! read and giggle.

speaking of mass, the boston aquarium built an old folks home for their geriatric penguins. how cute is that?

in the wake of dump and his administration cutting funding to universities mackenzie scott (aka the former mrs jeff bezos) donated $80m to howard university, an hbcu (historically black colleges and universities, for the non-americans in the audience), which is one of the biggest single donations in the school's history. she got billions of dollars when she split from jeff and she's definitely using her powers for good.

i know thanksgiving was last year and these are probably quite sold out but i must share the "no-thanks" jell-o molds. you could get canberry canned cranberry jelly, pecan pie, and brussel sprouts. i don't like brussel sprouts at all but the round little molds are so cute.

joe keery officiated a wedding in his scoops ahoy uniform. for the stranger things fen in the audience. :D

i must share one of the scariest videos i've ever seen - a guy climbing up and then skiing down mt everest with no supplemental oxygen. i'm sorry, but watching him ski down that mountain, especially from the top, is fucking terrifying. i'm not afraid of heights but absolutely not, no way.

sir david attenborough sends a hedgehog on its way. to end with something cute.

dave grohl vs animal drum battle. and something fun. :D

Lake Lewisia #1355

Jan. 12th, 2026 04:55 pm
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While the ground is frozen and there is little for gardeners to do but wait, the temptation may come to try growing things in unusual, climate-controlled locations. If you have a greenhouse, cold frame, or suitable windowsill, this can be an appropriate outlet for your gardening impulses and will, at worst, result in some premature seedlings. Please resist the urge, however great, to plant seeds in your partner’s coffee mug, the office break room sink, your car in an elaborate raised bed arrangement on the dashboard, or in any other places you would not wish to eventually deal with a full-grown marigold shrub, pumpkin vine, or ambulatory tree sapling.

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LL#1355

What's Up for 2026?

Jan. 12th, 2026 05:50 pm
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In May I took a great trip with friends through Oregon and we ended in California. The timing for the trip, however, was to coincide with the memorial service for my oldest friend's mother.

As she is my oldest friend, I knew her parents the best of all my friends' parents because of the stretch of time over which we saw one another (and she lived just a few doors down from me). I was not close to them but they were always kind to me, and it's interesting how it's the kindness that lingers. Read more... )

Monday Media: January 12

Jan. 12th, 2026 05:08 pm
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Games: I played a bunch of Hive.

Miscellaneous: No podcasts, one longform article:
  • Why I Wrote Dirty Linen

    Music: I didn't go to yesterday's pub session because Newest D&D Homebrew Campaign had a D&D session scheduled, which was cancelled at the last minute. Alas.

    Roleplaying: See above. :-/

    Television: We watched the first two episodes of Max Headroom S2, which predicted AI-generated avatars of deceased loved ones and parodied certain aspects of religion in ways that ::cough:: would not make it onto TV in 2026.

    I also watched the final three episodes of Heated Rivalry. Thoughts, in no particular order. )

    Video Games: I finished Samorost 2, which is a mechanically simpler game than Botanicula and thus tricky to play after it, as I had to rethink the way I approached the puzzles. It's still a super fun game; I love everything Amanita Design puts out.

    I wanted to play Downwell next for a change of pace, but fucking windows insists on rendering it in a tiny 3" x 4" box in the center of the screen, making it all but unplayable. I've thus settled on a Pentiment replay (in which I am once again on a collision course with the church from the get-go) and am also toying with the idea of a Darklands replay as well, given the clear debt the former owes this game...provided windows cooperates.

    これで以上です。
  • 第五年第三天

    Jan. 13th, 2026 07:37 am
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    部首
    心 part 14
    虑, to think over; 悉, to know; 悔, regret pinyin )
    https://www.mdbg.net/chinese/dictionary?cdqrad=61

    词汇
    潮, 潮湿, damp/humid; 潮流, trend; 高潮, climax pinyin )
    https://mandarinbean.com/new-hsk-4-word-list/

    Guardian:
    我们办事从来都不考虑值不值, we never consider whether what we do is worth it or not
    最近龙城暗潮涌动地星人一个个在我们地盘撒野, lately a lot of Dixingren have been acting out on our territory under the surface

    Me:
    在行动之前,好好考虑你会不会后悔的。
    这边夏天潮湿得要命。

    Burger Talko is

    Jan. 12th, 2026 10:03 pm
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    Posted by Mark Evanier

    A couple of folks have written me in stark shock at the news that I don't like In-and-Out Burgers. One who lives in a state devoid of In-and-Out locations said he had one once on a vacation out here, dreams of going back for more of 'em, and envies me living in a state where they're plentiful. He should plan a trip to Las Vegas later this year. They're currently building what will be the largest In-and-Out Burger in the world with two functioning kitchens, seating for 200+ burger-eaters and a drive through that will look like a ten-lane highway.

    But no, I don't like them. I wanted to. I liked the mood and the friendliness of In-and-Out Burger eateries when I did go to them but the burgers increasingly disappointed me and I think their fries disappoint most people even when you ask for them "well done.: A few years ago, I had a few burgers in a row there that made me decide to give up.

    Here's what I think is why: Your basic In-and-Out Burger has one or more patties of beef, a slice of tomato, a big piece of lettuce, optional onions and their proprietary sauce which is a close relative of Thousand Island Dressing. I'm allergic to lettuce and raw tomatoes, and I don't like Thousand Island Dressing so I always have them leave those things off. If you have one the way I do — with onions and ketchup — it's not a very good hamburger.

    There seems to be a trend in burger places these days to hide mediocre meat under a dogpile of toppings. A friend of mine recently recommended the hamburgers at Longhorn Steakhouse. Their basic burger comes with mayonnaise, mustard, cheese, lettuce, tomato, pickles and thinly-sliced onions. My feeling is that if a burger has more than five things on it, you could swap out the beef for a drink coaster and most folks couldn't tell the difference.

    Not long ago, I was talking with a fellow who operates a big restaurant review site. I suggested a feature called Live Nude Burgers in which they rate hamburgers that consist of a patty and a bun. If the meat is any good, it should be a pleasant dining experience without all the toppings named above plus avocado, sprouts, sautéed mushrooms, a fried egg, jalapeños, BBQ and/or A-1 sauce, cole slaw, various and sundry aiolis and cheeses plus applewood smoked bacon. You know…the kind of burger where you have to unhinge your jaw to get that first bite.

    He stared at me for two seconds, then licked his lips and said, "Mmmm. Do you know a place that does their burgers like that?"

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